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The Resurrected Life: Making All Things New

resurrected lifeI spent some time with a new DVD-driven study this week that is almost a one-of-a-kind. The Resurrected Life: Making All Things New is a 7 week study designed to be used following Easter. Part of a three study series (the Christian Life Trilogy), The Resurrected Life was developed by Rev. Charlie Holt and produced by LifeTogether. The rector of St. Peter’s Episcopal Church in Lake Mary, FL, I first learned about Holt in 2004 when he led his congregation to do 40 Days of Purpose and then shared one of the most remarkable and powerful stories of community transformation.

“The Bible promises that those who are in Christ are “new creatures.” But how does that transformation take place? This unique Easter-season curriculum provides a space in which we can discover what truly means to live a new life. As we listen, we’ll learn how the resurrection of Jesus Christ changes everything–for us (from the cover).”

The Resurrected Life shows you how to live every day in the hope and power of the resurrection. The seven sessions explore:

  • All Things New: Overcoming Doubt and Fear
  • New Life: Letting Go and Letting God
  • New Temple: Inviting God’s Presence
  • New Body: Manifesting Jesus
  • New Covenant: Experiencing Resurrection Power
  • New Creation: Stewarding the Good News
  • New Day: Living in the “Now” but “Not Yet”

DVD-driven, the video segments feature teaching by Rev. Charlie Holt and a powerful set of personal testimonies. At 10 to 12 minutes in length, the segments are just about right. Short enough to hold everyone’s attention and long enough to set up an important discussion.

The study guide is well-written and easy to use. Each session is designed with a simple flow that makes it very possible for newer leaders to feel confident and effective. The study guide also includes several leader resources that will help enhance the member experience.

A daily devotional with 49 focused reflections will also enrich the experience. Spending time each day, continuing the journey, will encourage members to deeply reflect seven key areas of life transformation.

Produced by LifeTogether, The Resurrected Life campaign includes downloadable templates for flyers, posters, powerpoint backgrounds, and web banners. An excellent campaign manual is available right here.

For churches planning to use The Resurrected Life as a church-wide campaign, you’ll find the complete collection of sermon audios right here.

There are two other studies in the Christian Life Trilogy (The Crucified Life and The Spirit-Filled Life). “While these studies can be done at any time of the year, many congregations use The Crucified Life and The Resurrected Life for Lent and Easter and then kick off The Spirit-Filled Life in the fall season after Pentecost (from the brochure).”

I really like the potential of The Resurrected Life: Making All Things New and this series! If you’re looking for a series that will help your congregation explore the new life available in Christ, please take a look at The Resurrected Life.  I like this study and I think it’s a great resource that will help many congregations.

Thomas Merton on Love as Its Own Reward

feat-thomas-merton-800“Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. It leaves all the other secondary effects to take care of themselves. Love, therefore, is its own reward.” Thomas Merton, No Man Is An Island

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Determining What to Do…and What Not to Do

determine what to doHow do you determine what to do…and what not to do?

How do you determine which next steps in include? And which to eliminate?

How do you determine which menu items to add? And which to remove?

cone_slide8I have used the term “the preferred future” to describe where we dream of arriving. The preferred future is what we dream our small group ministry looks like. It is what a small group leader or coach is becoming. It is what a disciple is becoming.

Not every path leads to the preferred future. There may be more than one way to get there, but there are many that lead elsewhere.

And in order to arrive anywhere you must choose the path carefully. Not every path leads to the preferred future. There may be more than one way to get there, but there are many that lead elsewhere.

In order to become anything you must choose your physical or mental regimen carefully. Not every activity or routine leads to the preferred future. There may be more than one way to get there, but there are many that lead elsewhere.

According to Michael Porter,the father of modern strategy, “the essence of strategy is choosing what not to do.”

If you’ve been in on very much of this conversation, you are probably becoming very familiar with this diagram.  I use it for all kinds of discussions (you’ll see many of them right here), but we’ve rarely talked about choosing what not to do.

Choosing what not to do is very near the heart of identifying your preferred future.  If you study the diagram for a moment, you’ll see that the preferred future is actually a subset of three areas:

  • The Probable Future: I think of this as a way of describing the way things will be in your ministry or organization if nothing changes.  You pick the timeline, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, it doesn’t matter.  The probable future is what things will look like if you’re doing the same things.  See also, Start with the End in Mind.
  • The Possible Future: This is actually all of the known or imagined possibilities for the future.  For example, you might have a meeting where you brainstorm as many possibilities for connecting people as you can.  See also, Where Do You Want to Go with Your Small Group Ministry?
  • The Adjacent Possible: This section isn’t labeled in the diagram, but if you look closely in the preferred future section, you’ll notice that it includes some of what is actually beyond the possible future.  See that?  The white space.  I think of the adjacent possible as the Ephesians 3:20-21 aspect of the preferred future.  See also, Grouplife Agnostics and the Adjacent Possible.

Calling out the preferred future is really a three step process:

  1. identifying the gold of what you are currently doing
  2. imagining all of the possibilities beyond what you are currently doing
  3. choosing what not to do trims out the extra that may very well be good but not great.

What do you think?  Have a question?  Want to argue? You can click here to jump into the conversation.

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8 Habits of a Life-Changing Small Group Coach

habits of a life-changing coachIf it’s true that “whatever you want to happen at the member level, will have to happen to the leader first,” it follows that whatever you want to happen in the lives of the leaders of your groups, will have to happen to your coaches first.

With me? It does make sense, doesn’t it?

I believe this understanding informs the job description of your coaches. It tells us what the coach will have to be able to do TO and FOR the leaders they are caring for.

Still with me? Doesn’t it still make sense?

I also believe this understanding informs the habits of a life-changing small group coach. Doing is preceded by being. After all, “Jesus does not call us to do what he did, but to be as he was, permeated with love. Then the doing of what he did and said becomes the natural expression of who we are in him (Dallas Willard).”

Here are the 8 habits of a life-changing small group coach.  Life-changing small group coaches:

  1. Make time with God a daily priority.  “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” Mark 1:35 NIV
  2. Follow the best example and offer a good example.  “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 11:1 NIV
  3. Have clear priorities.  “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14 NIV
  4. Put the interests of others ahead of their own.  “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Philippians 2:3-4 NIV
  5. Know they haven’t arrived.  “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.” Philippians 3:12 NIV
  6. Clear up relationships.  “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” Matthew 5:23-24
  7. Give and receive scriptural correction.  “But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:13 NIV
  8. Follow spiritual leadership (within scriptural limits) and make it a joy for their leaders.  “Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.” Hebrews 13:17 NIV

Are these habits prerequisite to beginning?  Not in the least.  Instead, they become the preferred future of a life-changing small group coach.  Can you imagine a better destination?  How do you help small group leaders move in the right direction?  Help them build the habits that will take them there. How do you help small group leaders build these habits? Recruit coaches who are already developing them. See also, What Does Coaching Look Like in Your Preferred Future?

Full disclosure? Everyone in leadership of any kind ought to be developing these habits. Anyone in leadership without a commitment to developing these habits…shouldn’t be in leadership.

Although many people have influenced my thinking, I have to acknowledge Harold Bullock and Hope Church in Fort Worth, Texas and their heart attitudes.

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What do you think?  Have one to add? Want to argue?  You can click here to jump into the conversation.

New from Priscilla Shirer: The Armor of God is a Can’t-Miss Study

armor of GodI spent some time with The Armor of God this week. Priscilla Shirer’s newest study is definitely one you need to know about and add to your recommended list. Shirer is one of today’s most powerful speakers and The Armor of God leaves nothing on the field. The daughter of well-known pastor and Bible teacher Tony Evans, Shirer is a very popular teacher in her own right.  A dynamic communicator, this is a study that will resonate very well with many Bible study groups.

A seven session DVD-driven study (with six weeks of daily Bible studies), The Armor of God presents the powerful truth that while “a very real enemy has been strategizing and scheming against you, assaulting you, coming after your emotions, your mind, your man, your child, your future,” you can “be armed and dangerous, prepared to stand firm against his insidious schemes (from the introduction).”

The DVD sessions allow Shirer’s dynamic teaching to shine. Averaging 35 to 40 minutes in length, Shirer’s powerful delivery of scriptural truth interspersed with captivating personal stories easily captures and holds the listener’s attention.

The Armor of God is designed to be used by groups or Bible studies that meet once a week to watch the video and then do the personal work on their own through the week. The leader’s guide in the back of the member Bible study book provides direction and some tips on what to do in the weekly group meeting. With a little preparation, leaders will have no trouble guiding a good discussion about what participants have learned in their personal study.

The Bible study book includes both the weekly video viewing guide (with fill-in-the-blank notes and room to jot down other insights), as well as daily work for five homework sessions. The daily homework sessions are challenging and will require a 30 to 60 minute investment. Built-in activities in each session provide memorable takeaways that participants who dig in will find genuinely impactful.

If helping the women in your church learn to use the armor of God in their daily battle against the schemes of the evil one sounds like an important truth to give them, The Armor of God is a must-add to your recommended list. Whether you use it for an on-campus or off-campus study, this study will shape participants in a life-changing way.

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beautiful diamond“However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.” Winston Churchill

What Are You Doing to Renew and Recharge?

renew and rechargeWhat are you doing to renew and recharge yourself? I’ve found that I’m a lot like a phone I used to have. It worked fine as long as I charged it every night and kept a power cord with me at all times. It just wouldn’t hold a charge!

Every year I renew and refresh my commitments. I end the year with a time of reflection, trying to determine the state of my present and then reminding myself of the preferred future I see in the distance. And then I assemble a set of practices that I think will start me on the right trajectory and keep me moving in the right direction.

I’m sure your pattern is similar.

These are my current daily practices:

  • Reading one book of the Bible each month as many times as I can. I started the year in Acts and should make it through 3 times. My friend Eric Swanson called this the Bible Book Club 30+ years ago when he first shared it with me.
  • Reading one Psalm a day.
  • Journaling every day. I record the date and what I’ve read on the top line. I write a paragraph or two reflecting on what happened yesterday, reflecting on both the blessings and the challenges spiritually and relationally. I actually start my entry with “Yesterday I …” Next, I write out my prayer thanking God for yesterday and seeking help to do the things I need to do to clean up any messes or in pursuit of spiritual power.
  • Read a section in Richard Rohr’s “What the Mystics Know: Seven Pathways to Your Deeper Self.” 26 days into this, I’m not sure I’ll make it through. I may set it aside and find a more helpful devotional book.
  • Read a page in my copy of The Daily Drucker. Set up with 365 days of individual ideas, it’s always interesting how often Drucker’s writing will have ministry connections.

What are your daily practices? You can click here to jump into the conversation.

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5 Things That Used to Work in Small Group Ministry

used to workNot long ago Craig Groeschel talked about the death of the five year plan:

“When I started in ministry two decades ago, everyone I knew was making five-year plans. While thoughtful planning is wise and biblical, I’ve changed how I plan.

Instead of planning for specific buildings, campuses, staff roles, and outreach, I plan to be prepared for opportunities that I can’t name today. Here at Life.Church, we’re focusing on creating margin and planning to respond quickly to ideas that we don’t yet have.”

He’s right. There was a time when everyone made five year plans. And then the speed of change sped up and called for a new practice. So Groeschel and Life.Church adapted to the challenges of a different day and adopted a new practice.

And many churches go right on making five year plans. Even though times have changed and the practice is no longer effective.

And so it is with small group ministry

In the same way, there are things that used to work in small group ministry…but no longer do.

  1. Relying on apprentice leaders as the main source of new group leaders. Apprenticing is a biblical practice and a timeless practice. It just doesn’t end up being a viable main source for new group leaders for most churches. If you’ve already connected a very large percentage of your weekend adult worship attendance in groups and can afford to wait 12 to 18 months for each new leader to emerge…you are the exception. Since the vast majority of churches have connected less than 50% of their weekend adult worship attendance, a faster and more reliable source for new leaders is required. This is why both the small group connection strategy and the HOST strategy within a church-wide campaign are so important to understand and implement. Both strategies identify often unknown leaders from outside the usual suspect pool. See also, 8 Secrets for Identifying an Unlimited Number of Leaders.
  2. Matchmaking: Taking sign-ups to join a group and then placing members with leaders. There may have been a day when church staffing ratios were more robust and the hand-to-hand combat of finding just the right match for every person who wanted to sign up for a group made sense. Today’s staffing trends have long since made this practice an unsustainable practice. Hear me. I decided in 2000 to stop taking sign-ups to be added to a group and began only taking sign-ups to attend a small group connection or commit to host a group and fill my own group. There may have been a time when matchmaking worked. It is long gone in all but the rarest exceptions. See also, 5 Stupid Things that Small Group Pastors Need to Stop Doing.
  3. Assuming that life-change is happening in every group. I’m not sure life-change ever happened in every group, but the assumption that it is happening needs to be carefully evaluated. Like the servants entrusted to invest the master’s resources (and held accountable for the results), a lack of intentionality in small groups leaves pastors and leaders open to a harsh accountability. Building an effective coaching structure, doing TO and FOR your leaders whatever you want them to do TO and FOR their members, and providing a discipleship/curriculum pathway are essential practices if you want to build optimum environments for life-change. See also, Skill Training: Design Your Group Meeting for Life-Change.
  4. Assuming biblical literacy. Unless your small groups only include Traditionalists (1945 and before) and older Baby Boomers (1946 to 1964), you cannot assume biblical literacy. Think about what this means when you choose small group curriculum that assumes knowledge of anything more than the most basic theological understanding. Think about what biblical illiteracy means when less than half the members of a group know that the Joseph in the Old Testament is not the same as the Joseph that married Mary. If you’re not choosing curriculum (and training leaders) with an awareness of a lower biblical literacy, you’re setting your members up for a struggle. See also, 5 Things You Need to Know about 21st Century Small Group Ministry.
  5. Assuming a biblical worldview. Similar to assuming biblical literacy, assuming a biblical worldview results in many forms of misunderstanding. What is obviously counter to God’s will for Christ-followers is often an unsolved mystery for people who are still far from God or beginners on a spiritual journey. Marriage, same sex attraction, and an ambiguous view of morality are just a few of the challenges of leading a small group ministry in the twenty-first century. See also, 6 Reasons Our Discipleship Strategies Miss Their Mark.

What do you think?  Have a question?  Want to argue? You can click here to jump into the conversation.

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A Man and His Fatherhood Is a Must-Add to Your Recommended List

a man and his fatherhoodJust previewed a study you are going to want to know about. A Man and His Fatherhood is the final installment in a line of six men’s studies called 33 The Series, inspired by the Men’s Fraternity material created by Robert Lewis (I reviewed part 1 of the series right here).

Important Note: Right up front, I want to make sure you know that the six studies in this series can easily be used independently and in just about any order.

Like the other studies in this series, A Man and His Fatherhood can be used in several ways.  Much like Men’s Fraternity, it can be used as a weekly on-campus large group study with discussion groups.  It can also be used very effectively by men’s small groups that meet in homes, at work, or in a coffee shop.

“Being a dad is one of the most important and influential roles a man could ever play in his life. But being a good dad doesn’t always come naturally (from the cover).”

A Man and His Fatherhood covers six important topics:

  • Five foundational truths of fatherhood
  • How to be a grace-based dad
  • How to instill true greatness in our kids
  • A framework for fathering sons
  • The connection between strong dads and strong daughters
  • Parental decisions that launch healthy sons and daughters

DVD-driven, A Man and His Fatherhood is a six session study that features teaching by Bryan Carter (senior pastor of Concord Church), Tierce Green (lead house church pastor of The Church Project),  and John Bryson (founding pastor of Fellowship Memphis).  These three communicators are known for their ability to connect with men.  In addition to series regulars Carter, Green and Bryson, this volume includes segments from fathering experts Dr. Tim Kimmel (author of Grace-Based Parenting and Raising Kids for True Greatness), Stephen James and David Thomas (authors of Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys), and Dr. Meg Meeker (author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know). The DVD segments average 30 to 35 minutes in length and include a variety of elements: teaching, man on the street interviews, and personal testimonies.

The Training Guide includes a note-taking section to be used while viewing the teaching segment, as well as a reflection and discussion guide that will direct the group experience.  In addition, you’ll also find an engaging set of short between-session reading assignments on a series of topics that will capture and hold the attention of group members. Because of the way the questions are designed, no leader is required.

Far more than a study guide, the design of the Training Guide has a very engaging design.  I’ve been impressed with the look and feel of every volume and this one is no exception.  It has a very contemporary feel and will hold attention very well.

The Leader Kit comes with a second DVD that includes a promotional trailer, leader ideas, creative ideas for building a men’s large group study and much more.

If you’re looking for a new study that will help dads launch healthy sons and daughters into the world, you need to take a look at A Man and His Fatherhood. I like this study and I think you will too.

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5846273434_ffcbff26a6_z“Wise people build their lives around what is eternal and squeeze in what is temporary. Not the other way around.” John Ortberg, When the Game Is Over, It All Goes Back in the Box

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