Pushing Boundary-Free GroupLife

Page 3 of 185

Wanted: Men’s Pastor/Director for Canyon Ridge

5863884809_7dcbcea2e5_zAre you the man for the job? Do you know the man for the job?

We’re looking for the right player to join the Groups team at Canyon Ridge and lead our Men’s “ministry.” It’s a groups position and the best fit will be someone with a minimum of 5 years experience in groups ministry and a passion to help men get connected and grow in Christ. Because of the size of Canyon Ridge (weekend attendance just over 7000), the right candidate will likely be someone leading a groups ministry.

The most important outcome/objective of this position is identifying, recruiting and developing leaders of leaders as our Men’s Life Group grows from 500 men connected to 2000. Another significant outcome is building the teams that will design and develop next steps for every Ridger and first steps for their friends.

Could this be you? You can read more about the role right here.

Could this be someone you know? Why not forward them this post?

Have a question? Email me.

5 Things to Do in January to Connect More in 2016

january calendarWant to connect more people in 2016? There are a few things you can do now to exponentially increase the number you connect.

Here are 5 things to do:

  1. Plan a connecting event in late January. If you run the event on January 31st, you’ll have several weeks to promote it. Use a strategy like a small group connection in order to launch the maximum number of new groups. Small group fairs or other events that add members to existing groups are better than nothing, but don’t come anywhere near connecting the largest number of people for the year. See also, How to Launch Groups Using a Small Group Connection and Here’s How I Lead a Small Group Connection.
  2. Think strategically about the placement of your 101 class. If your 101 class is designed to offer a short list of next steps and you’ve slotted your connection event to follow a week or two later, you have an easy and effective one-two step that leads to more people connected.  At Canyon Ridge we have a 60 minute experience called NEXT that is offered about every 6 weeks. The three next steps that are promoted during NEXT are baptism, an upcoming small group connection (1 or 2 weeks after), and signing up for a back-stage tour designed to expose unconnected people to serving opportunities. See also, How to Design Next Steps and First Steps.
  3. Review your calendar of connecting opportunities for 2016 and make sure you’re offering a well-timed selection. We build in an annual church-wide campaign every fall. We also schedule at least two other major small group connections and one or two opportunities to choose from a strategically selected set of on-campus group experiences that lead to off-campus groups. In all, we try to always have an upcoming opportunity that will connect people who have attended NEXT. See also, How to Build an Annual GroupLife Calendar.
  4. Choose a church-wide campaign for the fall ministry season and begin the planning process for it. The right church-wide campaign run the right way will maximize the number of people connected in new groups. Although a church-wide campaign may fit on the calendar in other seasons, the fall is the best time. See also, How to Choose the Right Church-Wide Campaign.
  5. Take a serious look at offering at least one 6 week on-campus experience that leads to an off-campus group. What we call a base group, offers a smartly selected topic that will appeal to unconnected people. For example, we use Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage to draw unconnected married couples. They’re seated intentionally with other unconnected couples like them (we actually segregate any couples who are already in groups to their own tables). The material almost leads itself but the most natural leaders always emerges by the 3rd week. In week 5 we begin suggesting that if they’d like to continue to meet together off-campus, we’d like to help them. See also, Take Advantage of This Short-Term On-Campus Strategy.

What do you think?  Have a question?  You can click here to jump into the conversation.

Image by Emma Kate

The Latest on Church-Wide Campaigns – 2016

The Latest On Church-Wide CampaignsSaddleback released the 40 Days of Purpose church-wide campaign in 2002.  Although they had previously launched internal spiritual growth campaigns, this one really was a just-add-water option.  Of course, in 2002 it really was just about the only option.

Today, there are lots of options and there are more all the time.  I’ve reviewed many of them and cataloged them here for your convenience.  How to choose?  I’d highly recommend my article, “How to Choose the Right Church-Wide Campaign.”

The Nearly Complete List of Church-Wide Campaigns (as of 1/5/16)

Note: This list is alphabetical.  In most cases, I’ve linked to my own review of the campaign.

5 Commitments for This Small Group Pastor

5 COMMITMENTSHave you made any New Year’s resolutions? I’ve made a set of resolutions. I’ve also renewed a set of 5 commitments as a small group pastor.

Here are the 5 commitments I’ve made as a small group pastor:

  1. I will make my own daily, living connection with Jesus Christ a priority—being in community with Him is the foundation for all community. This is truly where it must begin. How can I have any hope of leading anyone where I am not already going personally? Remember, whatever you want to happen at the member level in your system will have to be experienced by the you first.
  2. I will lead an exemplary Christian lifestyle—anyone watching me will see an obedient servant of Jesus Christ growing in maturity. I have a moment-to-moment opportunity to live the life I am proclaiming to others. In the words of Yoda, “Do or do not. There is no try.” See also, 8 Habits of a Life-Changing Small Group Leader.
  3. I will convene my own small group regularly (2 to 4 times a month). How can I call everyone to life in community if I am not in community?
  4. I will provide personalized care and development for each of my area leaders (staff and volunteer). In order to provide appropriate care at the leader and member levels, I must pay close attention to the care being given to coaches and community leaders. Within the constraints of our span of care, I must do TO and FOR my area leaders (men’s, women’s, couples, etc.) whatever I want them to do TO and FOR the community leaders and coaches for whom they provide care.
  5. I will regularly gather our coaching community for training and encouragement.  We all need to pay attention to the examples of the leaders just ahead of us.  We also need to meet the needs of the leaders just behind us.  Although it is countercultural, we need each other and we are in this together.

While there are other ministry-centric actions and habits that I’m committed to, these five are at the core of what I must commit to as a small group pastor.

What do you think?  Have a question?  Want to argue? You can click here to jump into the conversation.

Top 10 Posts of 2015 at (part two)

Top 10 Posts of 2015 (1)Another great year at! Thanks for coming along! Here are my top 10 most popular posts for 2015 (#6 to #10):

#6 – 5 Toxic Small Group Ministry Moves

I’ve noticed that there is a short list of small group ministry moves that can be toxic. They often seem harmless. They don’t look dangerous. But they can cause great damage.

#7 – 5 Stupid Things Small Group Pastors Need to Stop Doing

We all do them. They’re just stupid. And we need to stop doing them.

Here are a few that are MUST. STOP. DOING.

  1. Matchmaking. Few of us actually have time or available horsepower to place members in groups with room for members. Time spent matchmaking is almost always better spent (a) focusing on launching new groups and (b) training leaders to learn to fish for their own new members.

#8 – 5 Clues that Point to a Change in Small Group Strategy

There’s no doubt that one of the most toxic small group ministry moves is changing small group systems, models or strategies too frequently or flippantly. It is important to make a three year commitment and pursue it with everything you’ve got when you do decide to change. See also, 5 Toxic Small Group Ministry Moves.

#9 – 5 Simple Mistakes that Sink Small Group Ministries

Figuring out why small group ministries fail is not complicated. There is a short list of simple mistakes that sink small group ministries.

5 Simple Mistakes that Sink Small Group Ministries

  1. Allowing the senior pastor to delegate the role of small group champion. It may seem logical to delegate the role of small group champion to the small group pastor. After all, why have a small group pastor if not to be the champion? This simple mistake may seem logical, but when this is allowed to happen you announce to everyone that being involved in a small group is an add-on activity. You also fail to take advantage of the most influential voice in the church.

#10 – 5 Signs Your Small Group Ministry Design is Inadequate

If it’s true that “your ministry is perfectly designed to produce the results you are currently experiencing,” it follows that the results you are currently experiencing clearly indicate whether your design is the right one or the wrong one.

See where I’m going with this?

It makes sense, doesn’t it?  If you don’t like the results you are currently experiencing, you must blame the design.  It is not a fluke.  Results are directly connected to design.

Did you miss part one? You can see #1 to #5 right here.


Top 10 Posts of 2015 at (part one)

Top 10 Posts of 2015Another great year at! Thanks for coming along!

Here are the top 10 posts of 2015 (#1 to #5):

#1 – Skill Training: Equip Your Coaches to Develop and Disciple Leaders

A core understanding in my philosophy of small group ministry is that whatever you want to happen at the member level, will have to happen to the leader first.  Once you acknowledge that basic understanding, it automatically follows that you now know most of what the coaches in your system need to do.  This becomes their job description.

#2 – 5 Signs You May Have a Bad Disciple-Making Strategy

You may want to argue with me, but I think there are certain signs that indicate clearly whether you have a bad disciple-making strategy.  With me?  Isn’t obvious that certain results or a lack of results would indicate a bad disciple-making strategy?  Remember, “your ministry is perfectly designed to produce the results you are currently experiencing.”  If you don’t like the results, you must change the design.

I love this line from Winston Churchill.  “However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.”  If you don’t like your results, change the strategy.

3 – 4 Obsessions of the Extraordinary Small Group Pastor

I’ve written quite a bit about small group pastors.  I’ve shared their most important contribution and what they need to know on day one.  I’ve talked about their most common rookie mistakes and biggest problems.

What I haven’t written about is what a small group pastor needs to be preoccupied with, obsessed with, in order to succeed in their role.  With an obvious reference to Patrick Lencioni’s fabulous book, here are the four obsessions:

4 – 7 Things You Must Do TO and FOR Your Small Group Leaders

Can I let you in on a little corner of reality? Small group leaders are no different than the rest of us. A few of them (maybe 5 to 10%) are self-starters and have the internal wiring to take the right steps to grow on their own. The other 90-95% of all small group leaders need someone to develop and disciple them.

This is a very important concept to understand because whatever you want to happen in the lives of the members of your small groups must happen in the lives of your leaders first. No life-change in the leader, no life-change in the member.

5 – How to Make Disciples in Small Groups

I don’t know about you, but I’m determinedto build a thriving small group ministry that makes disciples.  That is the light at the end of the tunnel for me.  It is the end in mind.  It’s not just to connect unconnected people.  That’s important, but only a beginning.  My objective is to make disciples.  And I suspect–since you are still along on this journey with me–that is your objective too!  See also, How to Build a Thriving Small Group Ministry and 5 Things You Need to Know about Connecting Unconnected People.

And if your objective is to make disciples…you must know what it is you are trying to make (i.e., What is a disciple?).  Once you know that little detail, you will be able to lay out a path that leads to that preferred future.

Come back tomorrow to check out $6 to #10!

5 Decisions Delayed at Great Expense

delayThere may be some things that can be put off until later, but there are a number of decisions that are delayed only at great expense. What expense? Oh, first impressions missed, connection misplayed, leadership engagement squandering, etc.

Here are 5 decisions that are delayed only at great expense:

    1. Launching a good enough first-step-out-of-the-auditorium. What does delay cost? Total up the number of first time guests in the past 12 month period and use this number to analyze your weekend worship attendance. What percentage of first time guests who return for a second visit would you think would be a healthy target? What percentage of your first time guests should contribute to growth in your weekend worship attendance average? Churches that launch (and continue to perfect) a good enough first step out of the auditorium increase their opportunity to meaningfully connect new attendees. See also, How Would You Rate the First Step out of Your Auditorium?
    2. Converting to an always on prioritization of new groups. The best way to connect unconnected people is to prioritize launching new groups over adding members to existing groups. Referring potential new members to existing groups only occasionally leads to a connection. Groups that have been meeting longer than 3 to 4 months begin to form a nearly impermeable membrane that only the most outgoing and brazenly extroverted candidates can penetrate. Converting to an always on prioritization of new groups leads to more efficient connecting and fewer missed handoffs. See also, Critical Decision: Add Members to Existing Groups vs Start New Groups.
    3. Prioritizing the needs of unconnected people. Conduct an audit on your current menu for adults with an eye for one critical detail. Make a list of what you are offering that prioritizes the needs of unconnected people (outsiders) and another list that actually prioritizes the needs and interests of already connected people (insiders). Because insiders can only rarely remember the worldview of an outsider, you may need the help of a few people with a decidedly neutral bias. Continued delay on this decision is at the heart of the lack of growth for many churches. See also, Design Your Connection Strategy with Unconnected People in Mind.
    4. Trimming your become and belong menu. There is conclusive evidence in the retail world that a larger menu actually leads to fewer purchases. Buyers confronted with more choices do not buy more. They buy less. The underlying psychology explains the ineffectiveness of bloated become and belong menu (all the options you are currently offering for adults who want to connect relationally or grow spiritually). Delaying trimming this menu is understandable because of the feelings of the many committed volunteers who run the programs that contribute to the glut of offerings. In addition, many alumni of the programs remain passionate advocates long after they’ve graduated to other endeavors. Still, delaying these decisions leads to fewer purchases and fewer purchases leads to something far less than a satisfying outcome. See also, Small Group Ministry Roadblock #2: A Bloated Become and Belong Menu.
    5. Giving the annual budget a future forward makeover. One of the most significant hurdles in achieving escape velocity is a nearly inescapable commitment to last year’s budget allocations. If you want to break free from the gravitational pull of the commitments and strategies that have gotten you to where you are but will not get you to where you need to go…you must decide to begin the budget conversation with an outside-in perspective. Specifically, you must agree to “temporarily let go of your inside-out perspective and ask the question…’what does the world really want from us?'”See also, Can You Reach Escape Velocity?

Do you have what it takes to make these decisions? Or will you settle for the status quo?

1Geoffrey Moore, Escape Velocity

Image by Bryan Rosengrant

Good Intentions + Bad Decisions = Bad Results

good intentions

Good intentions are not enough. Wishful thinking may bring feelings of warmth and hope, but good decisions are essential.

I love this line from Jim Collins:

“Bad decisions taken with good intentions…are still bad decisions.”

Image by Michael Ransburg

Thinking Strategically about the New Year

thinkingOver the next few weeks all of us have an opportunity to connect unconnected people. The holiday season prompts a series of activities and the activities lead to a set of feelings (depression and sadness, hopes and dreams).

These feelings are almost culture-wide. Few people begin the new year as just another day. Most people enter the new year with a sense of resignation, a hopeful anticipation, or something in between.

Here are a few things that quickly come to mind as I think about the new year:

  1. Unconnected people may see joining a short-term group as something they ought to do. Sometimes this happens naturally and other times we can help unconnected people reach this conclusion. If we are saying the right things in our weekend messaging, if our website and our church-wide emails have the right cues, we can prompt this conclusion.
  2. People who were part of a group that chose not to continue may be looking for a new group. This is especially true if you use the fall ministry season as a way to launch new groups (for example, with a church-wide campaign or small group connection). We know the best case scenario is that about 70% of new groups will choose to continue into another 6 week study. This means that 30% of new group members are in groups that don’t continue. That means there is a good chance some of those who tried a group in the fall are now looking for a new group in January.
  3. Almost everyone sees the new year as an opportunity to start something new. There is something about the new year that makes self-improvement a natural thing to think about. Lose weight. Get out of debt. Go back to school. Make some new friends. Start reading the Bible. Attend a short-term group or class. Again, if we say the right things in our messaging (system-wide), we can prompt unconnected people to include joining a short-term group in the list of the other self-improvement options they are already thinking about.
  4. We seem to be programmed to hope that next year will be better. This is slightly different than #3. There is something about the holidays that causes many, many people to feel sad or even a little desperate about the state of their lives. After all, they have often attended too many parties, eaten or drank too much of the wrong things, busily chauffeured their children to parties and activities, pushed pause on their exercise routine, and maxed out their credit cards again…all at the same time.
  5. Every year some Christmas Eve attendees decide to come back for the January message series. Most churches have a group of people who only attend once or twice a year (Christmas and Easter). It’s common for a Christmas service to be the first service attended by new attendees. What begins as an annual tradition sometimes leads to attending week one of a January message series designed to have wide appeal (and peak the interest of unconnected people).

Image by Brandon Warren

Further reading:

Please Don’t Miss My 2016 Small Group Ministry Coaching Network

1795624513_dcc216adb2_bEvery year I block off six days and several hours a week for six months to personally invest in a very limited group of small group pastors.

My Winter/Spring 2016 Small Group Ministry Coaching Network experience is designed to give you the tools and strategies you need in order to build a small group ministry that works in the 21st century. The coaching network program will expose you to a new perspective. While it makes sense that in order to get different results you need to do different things…it’s not always clear what those different things might be. My coaching network program is designed around the idea that different, not better, leads to the kind of strategy that connects beyond the usual suspects.

Who will be part of the network? Each of my networks are limited to 15 participants and are designed for small group champions who serve in a local church. Because of the nature of the role, champions may be senior pastors, executive pastors, small group pastors and directors, ministers of education, and other key leaders.

What will you receive?

  • Five monthly coaching sessions. Anchored by a 90 minute video conference call, these group session provides focused exposure to the strategies that will build a more powerful platform.  Sessions are scheduled at 11am Pacific on January 14th, February 11th, April 14th, May 12th, and June 9th).
  • Two day gathering in Las Vegas. March 9th: 1pm-5pm followed by dinner | March 10th: 8am-12pm
  • Focused training on key strategic steps including planning with the end in mind, developing an annual grouplife calendar, identifying an unlimited number of new leaders, launching new groups in waves, and impacting your community through groups.
  • Tools, strategies and next steps to be implemented after every session.
  • Access to special password protected network pages with customized content for each session.
  • Scheduled 60 minute one-on-one calls to address questions more specifically, bring team members into the conversation, or help equip your senior pastor or other key staff members.
  • The opportunity to connect with other network participants between sessions
  • Email access to Mark during the six months

What are the expectations?

  • Participate in all six sessions
  • Invest as little as $1150*
  • Cover your own travel expenses to the two day gathering
  • Commit to the reading and exercises between sessions

What’s next? Complete the Coaching Network Application. My Winter/Spring Coaching Network begins on January 14th, 2016. Questions? Contact me.

« Older posts Newer posts »