Ready to Launch: A New Study on Jesus-Centered Parenting

ready to launchHad an opportunity this week to preview a new study from J.D. and Veronica Greear.  J.D. Greear is the lead pastor of Summit Church in Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina; Summit Church has been one of Outreach magazines top 25 fastest growing churches in America for several years running.  Ready to Launch: Jesus-Centered Parenting in a Child-Centered World is a 7 session study based on Psalm 127 that might be a great fit for your recommended list.

DVD-driven, Ready to Launch features teaching by J.D. and Veronica Greear.  The video sessions are 13 to 17 minutes in length and have the feel of being in a small group listening to two Christian parents talking about a how they raise their children according to scripture, preparing them for God’s mission.  I like the blend of J.D.’s lean forward intensity and Veronica’s more conversational tone.  The video sessions easily hold attention and the Greears are very relatable.

The member book includes a number of basic features:

  • A section for taking notes on the video teaching
  • A smartly written set of discussion questions that will help your group members dig into the Bible for clear understanding
  • A wrap-up section that summarizes the teaching
  • A prayer section that will guide your group to pray with and for each other

Each session in the member book also includes a family action plan activity, designed to help your members put into action what they’ve learned.  Each session also includes two devotions designed to help your members continue to reflect on what they’ve learned.

If you’re looking for a practical and biblically-based study on parenting, you’ll want to take a look at Ready to Launch.  I like this study and I think your groups will too.

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Thinking Thursday: Listen, Learn…Then Lead

stanley mcchrystalFour-star general Stanley McChrystal shares what he learned about leadership over his decades in the military. How can you build a sense of shared purpose among people of many ages and skill sets? By listening and learning — and addressing the possibility of failure.

Can’t see the video? You can watch it right here.

Are You Playing to Play? Or Playing to Win?

Los Angeles Memorial ColiseumAre you playing to play? Or playing to win?

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about clarifying the win in the various ministries and steps at Canyon Ridge.  We always want to identify what we will call a win before we schedule anything.  Actually, before we calendar anything we want to know what you will  call a win and what are the embedded steps that lead to where we want people to go next.  See also, How to Design First Steps and Next Steps.

What will you call a win?  Peter Drucker framed it slightly different when he asked, “What will you call success?”  Same idea.  See also, 10 Principles for Building a Thriving Small Group Ministry and 5 Non-Negotiables that Define True Small Group Ministry Success.

I’ve been spending some time again with Playing to Win: How Strategy Really Works by A.G. Lafley and Roger Martin (the former Chairman and CEO of Proctor & Gamble and the Dean of the Rotman School of Management at the University of Toronto).  This book is packed with great insights and the application is practically dripping off the pages.

I love the distinction made between playing to play (or participate) and playing to win.  Lafley and Martin point out that:

“When a company sets out to participate, rather than win, it will inevitably fail to make the tough choices and the significant investments that would make winning even a remote possibility.  A too-modest aspiration is far more dangerous than a too-lofty one.  Too many companies eventually die a death of modest aspirations (p. 36).”

Are you playing to play? Or playing to win?

That is a very compelling question, isn’t it?  Since unconnected people are always one tough thing away from never being at your church again, doesn’t it make sense that you would play to win?  Doesn’t it make sense that you would readily make the tough choices and the significant investments that would make winning likely?

What does it mean if you aren’t?

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Help! We Need Fresh Ideas for Communicating with Unconnected People

QuestionsI get questions.  Sometimes I get a lot of questions from readers looking for answers.  And sometimes, the best way to answer them is right here with a blog post.

Here’s a question I got yesterday:

We are in need of some fresh ways to communicate to the four types of unconnected people as we discuss small groups all the time.  Do you have any blogs (or could you create a blog) with literal scripts of ways to promote small groups?

There’s a great question in those two sentences.  It’s slightly different than the reader expressed.  I’d put it this way:

Are there some one-size-fits-all ways we can get the attention of the four types of unconnected people?

And the answer to that, I believe, is “no.”  There are definitely some things we can do to better understand the particular slice (or slices) of unconnected people in our churches…but there really isn’t a script that would work everywhere.

Here are four things to think about and talk about on your team:

  1. If you want to connect unconnected people you have to know them.  As long as they remain a faceless category they will be a mystery.  When great design companies are creating a new product or service they go to great lengths to truly understand and know the customers the product is being designed for.  They spend time with them.  They watch them use the product.  Sometimes they actually move in with the customer!  If we want to connect unconnected people we must actually know them.  See also, Learn to Empathize with Your End User and 5 Things You Need to Know about Unconnected People.
  2. If you want to connect unconnected people you have to design the first step with them in mind.  This is incredibly important for us to understand.  What the core and committed and congregation do without thinking, the crowd automatically rejects as too hard or too inconvenient or just plain boring.  When the first step is designed with unconnected people in mind it will be easy, obvious and strategic.  It will be at a convenient time, in a room they already know about, on a topic they actually care about and it will offer childcare.  See also, How Would You Rate the First Steps out of Your Auditorium? and 5 Key Ingredients that Motivate a First Step into Community.
  3. If you want to connect unconnected people you will make the ask with them in mind.  Language is so important.  How you craft the ask is critically important and if you’re not already wordsmithing, you need to begin.  As you’re crafting the invitation, whether it will be in your pastor’s message, a verbal announcement, an email or on your website, pay careful attention to how it will be received by your target.  They care about things like convenience, relevance, and length of commitment.  See also, Design Your Connection Strategy with Unconnected People in Mind.
  4. If you want to connect unconnected people you will have to creatively make the ask on a regular basis.  Remember, unconnected people are almost always infrequent attenders.  They are not there every week and will only occasionally be there the week of your annual push for small groups.  If you’re not talking about connecting all the time you cannot expect to connect them.

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4 Types of Unconnected People and How to Connect Them

LegosHave you picked up on the fact that unconnected people are different in some ways than connected people?  If you have, you are already moving in the right direction.  Next, though, you understand there are four main types of unconnected people and how you might connect them depends on improving your understanding of their needs and interests.  See also, 5 Things You Need to Know about Connecting Unconnected People, Design Your Connection Strategy with Unconnected People in Mind, and What’s Your Urgency Level for Connecting Unconnected People?

There are four main types of unconnected people.

  1. Busy with other priorities and commitments.  This segment of unconnected people is a very large and quite diverse group.  It includes everyone frantically preoccupied as their children’s chauffeurs as well as those who own extracurricular activities crowd out the truly important.  It also includes those who have commitments to church functions and activities that produce little more than sideways energy.  See also, A Smörgåsbord of Destinations VS Sequential and Tailored Next Steps and Small Group Ministry Roadblock #2: A Bloated Belong and Become Menu.
  2. Satisfied customers of a less than recommended or minimum dose.  Another large group of unconnected people, members of this group are unaware or unconvinced that they are missing anything.  If you are communicating about the importance of being connected and its vital role in producing life-change, they are either not getting the signal or the signal is unclear.  See also, Determining the Minimum or Recommended Dose.
  3. Dissatisfied former customers.  The size of this group of unconnected people is determined by several factors (i.e., the quality of your leader development pathway, the effectiveness of your coaching structure, clearly communicated expectations, etc.).  While it is rarely a large group, it is important to understand their objections and concerns.  See also, Skill Training: Equip Your Coaches to Develop and Disciple Your Leaders and Small Group Ministry Roadblock #5: A Leadership Development Disconnect.
  4. Infrequent attenders.  The size of this group is determined by a few key factors (most importantly, the size of your “crowd”).  They may share some common traits with the first two types of unconnected people, but they are distinct in that their attendance pattern makes any awareness of the importance of connecting unlikely.  Unless you make a strong case for the importance of being connected every week, it is likely they know nothing about it.

How to Connect Unconnected People

First, keep the needs and interests of unconnected people in mind.  Their interests and needs are not the same as those who are already connected.

Second, relentlessly communicate the importance of being connected.  Talk about the recommended or minimum dose on a regular basis (announcements, messages, bulletins, website, newsletters, etc.).  Take the mystery away along with any confusion.

Third, teach your congregation to prioritize the main things.  Clarify the main things.  Challenge the presence of menu items that distract from the minimum dose.

Fourth, focus on raising the quality of the experience in every group.  Build an effective coaching structure, identify a leadership pathway that develops leaders out of hosts, and constantly clarify expectations.

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Churchless: An Important Primer for Understanding Today’s Unchurched

churchlessSpent some time with the newest book from George Barna and David Kinnaman this week.  Churchless: Understanding Today’s Unchurched and How to Connect with Them covers some very important ground and is based on some research you are definitely going to want to understand.  “The Barna Group is a visionary research and resource company located in Ventura, California. Started in 1984, the firm is widely considered to be a leading research organization focused on the intersection of faith and culture.”

“Churchless presents the startling trends revealed by two decades of Barna Group interviews with thousands of churchless men and women, and offers discerning analysis of the results from best-selling authors George Barna (Revolution) and David Kinnaman (You Lost Me).”

There are a number of important themes revealed in Churchless and many of them will help all of us as we think about how to connect unconnected people.  Much can be learned about the reasons why people choose to leave church life, what their family life is like among unchurched people and what their lifestyle choices are.  I found a number of very important ideas in the chapter on the goals, morals, and values at the heart of churchless adults.

One aspect I found particularly helpful is that along with eye-opening findings about unchurched people the book is liberally sprinkled with insights about what churches might do (must do?) in order to reverse the trend.

If you’re taking the assignment seriously (to connect people no one else is connecting), Churchless is a book you will want to devour.  Like my copy, yours will be marked up, underlined, and starred with many dogeared pages.  I got a ton out of it and I know you will too.

Disclosure of Material Connection: Some of the links in the post above may be “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I may receive an affiliate commission. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will add value to my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Thinking Thursday: How to Manage for Collective Creativity

linda hill 3What’s the secret to unlocking the creativity hidden inside your daily work, and giving every great idea a chance? Harvard professor Linda Hill, co-author of “Collective Genius,” has studied some of the world’s most creative companies to come up with a set of tools and tactics to keep great ideas flowing — from everyone in the company, not just the designated “creatives.”

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Quotebook: Tim Keller on Community

I love this line from Tim Keller’s The Prodigal God:

You can’t live the Christian life without a band of Christian friends, without a family of believers in which you find a place.”

Keller’s line is found as summary of a quote from C.S. Lewis on the importance of community in knowing each other.  You can read the C.S. Lewis quote right here.

May we be always about the formation of more and better community.

Watch Saddleback’s Most Recent HOST Rally

host rallySaddleback’s most recent HOST rally happened on March 13th (yes that was a Friday night!).

It was a packed auditorium.  Great worship.  Lots of fun.  And a very inspiring message from Rick Warren.

There were some cool innovations that will transfer to your church.  They ran a contest and gave hosts a chance to have Rick come to their group.  Any host that stayed after the rally could get their picture taken with Rick.  There was great energy in the rally and you could clearly see Rick’s passion for small groups and small group hosts as key leaders in the church.

This you cannot miss.  Rick Warren is the small group champion at Saddleback.  He regularly leverages his influence as senior pastor to invite more people to join in the mission.

You can watch the HOST Rally right here.

You can watch a special video that Saddleback’s small groups watched in preparation for their upcoming church-wide campaign.

I hope you’ll watch this from start to finish.  It’s inspiring and very motivating.

5 Faulty Assumptions about Small Group Ministry Impact

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You know how kids sometimes believe that if they close their eyes, you can’t see them?  That’s an assumption they eventually grow out of.

Do you have an assumption or two about small group ministry impact that you need to grow out of?

I was imagining the Family Feud set-up when I wrote this.  See yourself standing at the podium.  “What are the top 5 faulty assumptions about small group impact.  100 people surveyed.  The top 5 answers on the board. Survey says…”

Here are 5 faulty assumptions about small group impact:

  1. The optimum environment for life-change is a small group.  While this is a very popular notion, it’s only true when the small group environment is designed for life-change.  It is much more common for groups to never move beyond being about connect unconnected people.  If you want groups to be about life-change…intentionality is an essential ingredient.  See also, Design Your Group Meeting for Life-Change.
  2. The small group champion role can be delegated.  NOT!  If you want to build a thriving small group ministry, there is no workaround for a senior pastor who insists on delegating the small group champion role.  Period.  There is no question that in churches where a vibrant and thriving small group culture exists there is a senior pastor who walks the talk and talks about it all the time.  See also, The Real Reason Saddleback Connects So Many in Small Groups.
  3. Coaching is primarily about problem solving and improving technique.  Nope!  “Coaching” small group leaders is nearly 100% about doing to and for (and with) your leaders whatever you want your leaders to do to and for (and with) the members of their groups.  And this is one of the main reasons that retroactively assigning a coach to an experienced leader is so deadly and almost never works.  Existing leaders know for sure that they do not need a coach.  If they needed a coach, they would have need a coach in their first 90 days.  See also, Coaching FAQ: How Much of Coaching Is about Technique and Small Group Ministry Myth #5: Only New Small Group Leaders Need a Coach.
  4. Requiring leader training as a prerequisite ensures a better member experience.  The truth is that the only thing requiring leader training as a prerequisite ensures that you will always have a shortage of qualified leaders.  Requiring leader training in advance sets in motion a system that does one of two things: (a) hand selecting prime candidates (which indicates that you think you already know the best candidates) or (b) advertises an upcoming leader training course and takes volunteers.  Either way this doesn’t ensure a better member experience.  The only thing that even comes close to ensuring a better member experience is a coach working with a leader doing to and for (and with) whatever you want the members of your groups to experience.  See also, Small Group Ministry Myth #4: High Leader Entry Requirements Ensure the Safety of the Flock.
  5. Unconnected people will respond because “it’s good for them.”  Listen, unconnected people don’t respond to “what’s good for them” anymore than children eats their vegetables because it’s good for them.  If you are banking on that, you are relying on a faulty assumption.  If you want to connect unconnected people, you must shift your thinking and focus on understanding the things that appeal to them in their current state.  What are their hopes and dreams?  What keeps them awake at night?  What do they long for?   When you understand those things you will finally begin to understand how to help them take first steps into authentic community.  See also, 5 Things You Need to Know about Connecting Unconnected People.

What do you think?  Have a question?  Want to argue?  You can click here to jump into the conversation.

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